Author Interview – Paula Renaye

Paula Renaye is the author of “The Hardline Self Help Handbook: What Are You Willing to Do to Get What You Really Want?” Paula shares with her readers a cut-to-the-chase approach towards personal development and self-improvement.

Paula Renaye is a certified professional coach, motivational speaker, regression hypnosis practitioner and award-winning author. She has been a consultant for 18 years and is a member of the International Association of Coaches. She presents classes, seminars, hands-on workshops and events on self-development and self-healing, as well as writing and publishing. Her passion is helping people face reality and take personal responsibility for their choices in order to reclaim their own power and live the life they really want.

Yvonne Wu – The title of your book is “Hardline Self Help” what does the title mean?

Paula Renaye – Hardline Self Help means that you stop letting yourself off the hook—stop giving yourself excuses for why you don’t or can’t have what you want—and you hold your own feet to the fire, face reality, take responsibility for your life right now and get busy

doing what you know you need to do.

Yvonne Wu – What do you mean by “What Are You Willing to Do to Get What You Really Want?”

Paula Renaye – When we are in tough spots in our lives and are in a loop of pain we just can’t seem to find a way out of, we may say that we’re willing to do anything to make things better. But is it really true? Many times, what we’re really saying is, “I‘ll do anything not to hurt anymore as long as I can keep things the way I want them.” For example, if what you want is a loving, peaceful and trusting relationship, but you’re in constant turmoil and upset over the situation you’re living in, what are you willing to do about it? Personally, I was willing to do absolutely anything except the one thing that I had to do—get a different partner. When I became willing to let go of my limitations—my attachment to that particular partner—I opened the door to being able to have what I really wanted.

Here’s another example. A lot of people tell me they’re going to write a book. Great! When? How? What are you willing to sacrifice to make it happen? Are you willing to watch less television to make time for writing? Are you willing to give up golfing on weekends? How bad do you really want it? I asked myself the “what are you willing to do” question repeatedly throughout the process of writing and launching this book. Every time the answer was the same—whatever it takes, which meant working 12 to 16 hours a day for months straight. Sure, I got tired, but I loved what I was doing, and getting this book in print was that important to me. I was willing.